Showing posts with label early miscarriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label early miscarriage. Show all posts

Early Miscarriage {Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss Awareness}

Spontaneous abortion, or miscarriage, is the term used for a pregnancy that ends on it's own within the first 20 weeks of gestation. The medical name spontaneous abortion gives many women a negative feeling, so throughout this series of posts I will refer to any type of spontaneous abortion or pregnancy loss under 20 weeks as miscarriage.

What causes an early miscarriage?
According to the American Pregnancy Association, during the first trimester, the most common cause of miscarriage is chromosomal abnormality - meaning that something is not correct with the baby's chromosomes. Most chromosomal abnormalities are the cause of a faulty egg or sperm cell, or are due to a problem at the time that the zygote went through the division process. Other causes for miscarriage include (but are not limited to):
  • Hormonal problems, infections or maternal health problems
  • Lifestyle (i.e. smoking, drug use, malnutrition, excessive caffeine and exposure to radiation or toxic substances)
  • Implantation of the egg into the uterine lining does not occur properly
  • Maternal age
  • Maternal trauma
Factors that are not proven to cause miscarriage are sex, working outside the home (unless in a harmful environment) or moderate exercise.

What to expect through the process
In most first trimester miscarriages, the baby stops developing at some point early in the pregnancy. The woman's body then recognizes that the pregnancy is not viable and begins to shed the uterine lining, leading to mild cramping alongside vaginal bleeding -- the most common signs of miscarriage.

The woman's body does not always recognize immediately that the pregnancy is not viable, however, and weeks can pass before miscarriage symptoms appear. If an ultrasound takes place during this time period, the doctor will usually diagnose a missed miscarriage or a blighted ovum (depending on the exact circumstances and assuming the doctor is confident in the dating of the pregnancy).

Your doctor should give you some guidance on what to expect from the testing process and ultimately the treatment, but here is some general information about diagnosis and physical recovery from first-trimester miscarriage.

After diagnosing a pregnancy loss, doctors sometimes offer women a choice of miscarriage treatment. The options are usually to wait for a natural miscarriage, have a D&C, or use medication to bring on the miscarriage bleeding.

If your pregnancy loss involved a medical emergency such as a ruptured ectopic pregnancy or a hemorrhage, you may have had no choice but surgery. But if you do have a choice in your treatment, each of your options has possible pros and cons depending on your situation and personal outlook. Your doctor will go over these with you. 

What to expect afterward
The time right after a pregnancy loss can be filled with a lot of emotions. Just like with the loss of a loved one or family member, the loss of your child can find you tumbling through the different stages of grief. I remember coming home from my D&C and just feeling numb. Not wanting to talk, not wanting to deal with anything. I turned inside and didn't let anyone in. Everyone recovers from the emotional pain differently, no one way is correct or right.

After your miscarriage, you will also be going through physical recovery as well. It takes a few weeks to a month or more to recover physically from a miscarriage. Your recovery will depend on how far along you were into the pregnancy. Some women experience the following physical effects:
  • Vaginal bleeding, similar to a menstrual period, may last up to a week after a miscarriage.
  • Light bleeding, or spotting.
  • Depending on your menstrual cycle, normal periods should resume in 3-6 weeks.
  • Lower abdominal pain similar to menstrual cramps may last up to 2 days after the miscarriage.
  • Breast discomfort, engorgement or leaking milk; ice packs and a supportive bra may relieve discomfort. This discomfort usually stops within a week.
  • Some pregnancy hormones remain in the blood for one to two months after a miscarriage.
You may resume normal activities as soon as you feel able. However, it is wise to ask your doctor for more specific instructions regarding any vigorous or strenuous exercise.

Please remember - you are NOT alone. There are many different support groups out there to help you through this. Please don't hesitate to reach out. Whether it be online, in person or over the phone. There are people out there who want to help you through this. 

Sources: About.com Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss, American Pregnancy

Our First BFP: September 1st, 2007

I had a little inkling that I read my chart wrong and that we might be pregnant. After charting for months I thought I had my cycle/body down... I was wrong. 13 dpo (days past ovulation) I took a digital pregnancy test and saw this:



I was excited and nervous. How was I going to tell Joseph? I mean... we'd only been married for just 2 months. I decided to just let him know. I crawled into bed and asked him if he was ready to be a daddy. He rubbed his eyes and asked, "What?!" I asked him again and he looked at the test and than hugged me.

The next few weeks were filled with joy and happiness as we started to think forward for life with a baby. I started looking at nursery ideas and baby clothes. Every baby and pregnant woman I saw made me tear up. It was a fun time thinking about our very near future.

We went in for our first appointment with our midwife and she did an ultrasound. She commented on the fact that the baby was measuring a bit small so we might be off on our dates. I showed her my chart and told her that I knew when I ovulated and when we could have conceived. She asked that we come back the next week and also asked that I get my beta hcg count tested.

I drew blood for the beta hcg count on a Tuesday and than again on a Thursday. The next appointment we found out that my numbers weren't quite doubling. The midwife did another ultrasound and saw that my baby was still there but she couldn't quite get a good measurement so she asked that we go to the big u/s at the main hospital down the street. So off we went to wait a long time...

When we finally got into the room where they were going to do the u/s I got really scared. It finally hit me that things might not be alright with my baby. The u/s tech wasn't very warm and by the time he was done I was in tears. He did confirm that he saw a very faint heart beat and told me to go up to ob/gyn to talk to a doctor. The doctor came in the room and told me the same thing the tech did. I was measuring small and there was a very faint heartbeat. Heartbeats are good right? He asked that I come back the next week to have another u/s. He also asked that I not eat anything before going to the appointment. I didn't fully register why he asked me not to eat until the nurse gave me miscarriage literature. It was like a blow to the gut.

So I came back and waited for what seemed like forever. I had to get up and ask the receptionist twice what was taking so long. Pregnant... very pregnant women were going in and out in a constant stream. They finally called my name. I walked in and as I got up to the table my knees started to shake. The woman technician was a lot sweeter than the guy I had before. She fumbled around a lot with the keys and took lots of pictures but I couldn't see any heartbeat. She finished and looked at me and said, "I'm sorry." I lost it. I started bawling. She handed me a tissue and left the room. I went back to ob/gyn and the doctor asked if I ate anything. I had two saltines in the morning because I felt nauseous so he said that I'd have to wait so many hours before I could have a d & c.

I went home and waited for what felt like an eternity. I just wanted it to be over already. I couldn't eat and didn't know what to do since food has been a comfort for me for so long. It was finally time for Joseph and I to leave for the hospital. When we got to the hospital we checked in and... you guessed it... waited forever. We finally were called and were lead upstairs to a row of beds. I was given a gown and booties and changed. They took forever to find a vein for my IV (first IV that I remember having and it hurt... bad) and gave me something to calm my nerves. After a few minutes a doctor came over introduced himself and explained the procedure.

I was out for about two hours. Don't remember anything past the bright lights in the operating room. After the procedure I was wheeled into a recovery room and given a few saltines and a ginger ale. I couldn't leave until I could stand up, walk and go to the restroom. I passed all three tests in about an hour and was on my way home. After the meds wore off I had the worst stomach pain ever for about three days.

I used a heat pad and sat in my chair in the living room for the majority of the three days. Tears were shed... more than I think I ever shed. Joseph was so wonderful. He would bring me anything I need and let me be when I needed to as well. Miranda came to visit and brought ice cream. She just sat with me and watched TV but it was exactly what I needed.

Over the next few weeks and months I went through the worst pain I have ever felt. Not physical pain but emotional pain. I didn't know why it happened to me and didn't understand what I did wrong. I've realized that I didn't do anything wrong. It was natural and my baby didn't belong here. After a long time of thinking and talking Joseph and I decided that we shouldn't try to have another child for a few years.