It's All Gossip

I recently read a blog post a fellow blogger, Dawn from Cheap is the New Classy, wrote about Christina Aguilera and the comments she made about a song choice another performer made complaining of it's derogatory nature. And it got me to thinking about how our society loves to gossip. You can find the original post here.

I'm always surprised to hear certain celebrities talk about others in the media when they themselves are guilty of the complaints they have about the other person! It's so similar to what I've had to deal with in the past with other gossipers talking about how they hate when other people talk about them.

I don't understand how one doesn't get that if you talk about other people, you'll probably be gossiped and talked about as well!

After learning a few lessons in high school I've tried to limit the amount of gossip I let out. I mean sometimes I honestly cannot help myself but for the most part I try to censor what I say and to whom. Thinking twice about what is said out loud is pretty sound advice because words really can hurt. Even words that are seemingly innocent.

I've started to realize over time that there are few things important enough to get worked up over. And gossip should just end. I saw the following on Facebook last week posted on a friend's wall originally from Positive Vibes that I'm going to try and follow:

And if your eyes aren't as good as they once were here's what it says:

1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

This totally resonated with me. And with the combination of reading Dawn's post and seeing this update on Facebook I knew I needed to change the way I view and react to things. I'm not going to take things as personally. I'm going to stop and think before making assumptions right away. And I'm definitely good at doing my best. 

Because while celebrities are talking about each other and criticizing and critiquing I'll be enjoying my family, having fun with my friends, and living my life easier and with more confidence. Ok... and I might gossip a little with the husband. But that won't leave the home. What are husbands for, right?

And don't forget to check out what else Dawn is writing about! She shares great info about freebies, giveaways, events and much more!

Do you gossip? Have you been hurt by gossip in the past?

7 comment(s) with love:

Opinions of a Moody Mama said... Reply To This Comment

Those are really great tips! I am going to try my best to follow them as well. Thanks for sharing!

Passport To Frugal said... Reply To This Comment

Great advice. Everyone need to remember boundary's.

AmberFaith said... Reply To This Comment

Wonderful advice! I think we all fall into the gossiping grapevine from time to time, some more than others. I'm trying my best to stop talking badly about my enemies, lol.

Beautifully BellaFaith

Cheap Is The *New* Classy said... Reply To This Comment

Oh, I love that thing you posted from Facebook. "Not making assumptions," that is definitely my hardest one for me. People are too quick to think the worst in others but do the same thing and not judge themselves nowhere near as harshly.

I need to work on that as well. Like you, I like to gossip with my husband. I try really hard not to say something ABOUT someone that I wouldn't say TO that same someone.It doesn't always work, but I try. :D


Mama Bucks said... Reply To This Comment

I am so glad I read this post. I am dealing with family members gossiping too much. I try to hard to not be like them. Thanks for posting.

Danielle Simmons said... Reply To This Comment

I always try and make sure that whatever I say about someone outloud I'd say to their face with no regrets. And I try and talk to that person directly if I have any problem with them. Sometimes, though, the husband gets more than he bargains for when I can't talk to them.

Kari said... Reply To This Comment

When I read the 4 Agreements- I feel like you already exemplify being impeccable with your word.

You are straightforward and honest, and I appreciate that about you!